I like the "Hell, maybe" phrase a lot. I will definitely keep this in mind moving forward. As someone that is quite indecisive, it is good to know that the choice doesn't have to be as black and white as "Hell yes" or "Hell no". Thank you!
When I first heard that phrase, "if it isn't hell yes, it's hell no," I knew something didn't feel right about it. Though coming from perhaps a slightly different reference point, I resonate with your take and certainly appreciate the clarity and detail you brought the matter confirming my own intuitive "ugh!" In my world, there simply are no "hell, yes" moments. And anything close is viewed with deep suspicion as I simply must be missing something. In fact, after decades of experiments and experience, anything remotely near a "hell yes" is first viewed as a red flag best avoided. Unless I can get it down to a "skeptical, but still intrigued" a "hell yes" might as well be a "hell no!"
Ah, love this analysis. We each live in our own worlds, and make decisions based on our own models. Maybe, for some, the "hell, yes" approach works. I just wonder what they might be missing out on by shutting down all the "hell, maybes" before they can reveal what they might grow into.
Exactly! As I think the author said, a hell yes is more likely a flash in the pan. I've found the rule, "slow and steady wins the race" to be pretty accurate for me. And, I marvel at those who dive in to anything feet first sight unseen. Not sure if it works out though as I can't recall seeing them again afterwards. (OK, not entirely true, lol.) I suspect "hell, maybes" are indeed more the realm of big picture, long-term thinkers. It's also a way of keeping options open til more potential one way or another can be revealed.
Good morning. I recently embraced the intention of harmony. Harmony to me is the melody of the infinite possibilities of emotion and earth school experiences. Each voice has a vast range of notes. I’m also honoring a softness and slowness that I don’t quite have language for yet. Work in progress. There’s liberation in being harmonious—neither BFlat entirely or F#. Neither Hell Yes or Hell No. More space. More movement. More joy. And even tears. All of it. So thank you for your insights and guidance. :)
You are so right about this, Jonathan. I felt relief as I read it! Just the other day I read something where someone said to look through our calendar and note what feels wrong in our gut, and then cross those things off the calendar— just like that. I appreciate the boundary idea, but… sometimes those boundaries become WALLS, and as you so rightly say, we may miss some of the opportunities that we have all had, where we begin with a reluctant maybe, we sit on it and take baby steps with it, and lo and behold perhaps years later, it’s a cherished piece of our life. Of course the opposite can happen, too— but at least it’s a well-considered “hell-no”.
I love how you say, this immediate either or, hell, yes/hell, no attitude “… all-too-often leads to a “hell, yes” for a hot minute, then living-hell, until we awaken to, and act upon, the fact that we’ve read our own signals wrong”.
It's such an interesting dynamic, we love to have these bright-line tests that lets us feel more decisive. But, how we decide is as important as whether we decide.
I like the "Hell, maybe" phrase a lot. I will definitely keep this in mind moving forward. As someone that is quite indecisive, it is good to know that the choice doesn't have to be as black and white as "Hell yes" or "Hell no". Thank you!
Exactly. I'm inclined to ask, "does it sound like it could turn into something interesting, or not?"
When I first heard that phrase, "if it isn't hell yes, it's hell no," I knew something didn't feel right about it. Though coming from perhaps a slightly different reference point, I resonate with your take and certainly appreciate the clarity and detail you brought the matter confirming my own intuitive "ugh!" In my world, there simply are no "hell, yes" moments. And anything close is viewed with deep suspicion as I simply must be missing something. In fact, after decades of experiments and experience, anything remotely near a "hell yes" is first viewed as a red flag best avoided. Unless I can get it down to a "skeptical, but still intrigued" a "hell yes" might as well be a "hell no!"
Ah, love this analysis. We each live in our own worlds, and make decisions based on our own models. Maybe, for some, the "hell, yes" approach works. I just wonder what they might be missing out on by shutting down all the "hell, maybes" before they can reveal what they might grow into.
Exactly! As I think the author said, a hell yes is more likely a flash in the pan. I've found the rule, "slow and steady wins the race" to be pretty accurate for me. And, I marvel at those who dive in to anything feet first sight unseen. Not sure if it works out though as I can't recall seeing them again afterwards. (OK, not entirely true, lol.) I suspect "hell, maybes" are indeed more the realm of big picture, long-term thinkers. It's also a way of keeping options open til more potential one way or another can be revealed.
I absolutely enjoyed reading this. Thank you.
So glad!
Good morning. I recently embraced the intention of harmony. Harmony to me is the melody of the infinite possibilities of emotion and earth school experiences. Each voice has a vast range of notes. I’m also honoring a softness and slowness that I don’t quite have language for yet. Work in progress. There’s liberation in being harmonious—neither BFlat entirely or F#. Neither Hell Yes or Hell No. More space. More movement. More joy. And even tears. All of it. So thank you for your insights and guidance. :)
Love the idea of embracing the intention of harmony, as well as how you define it
Thank you, Jonathan. :)
You are so right about this, Jonathan. I felt relief as I read it! Just the other day I read something where someone said to look through our calendar and note what feels wrong in our gut, and then cross those things off the calendar— just like that. I appreciate the boundary idea, but… sometimes those boundaries become WALLS, and as you so rightly say, we may miss some of the opportunities that we have all had, where we begin with a reluctant maybe, we sit on it and take baby steps with it, and lo and behold perhaps years later, it’s a cherished piece of our life. Of course the opposite can happen, too— but at least it’s a well-considered “hell-no”.
I love how you say, this immediate either or, hell, yes/hell, no attitude “… all-too-often leads to a “hell, yes” for a hot minute, then living-hell, until we awaken to, and act upon, the fact that we’ve read our own signals wrong”.
It's such an interesting dynamic, we love to have these bright-line tests that lets us feel more decisive. But, how we decide is as important as whether we decide.