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Pea Williams (aka Lou Lomas)'s avatar

Love this! It's inspired me to write an article today about how I started caring way less about what people think of me once I'd worked on/rebuilt my self-worth.

I find the more true or congruent I am with what I feel in my heart of hearts is right for me, the less I worry about what others think and the freer I am to be me. ❤️

Thanks Jonathan!

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Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer's avatar

Hi Jonathan,

what a joy when my friend Tom sent me a link to this ... thank you for sharing this conversation and your thoughts that sprang from it! I'm delighted to know of you, a kindred soul. In the spirit of not sleeping, I thought I'd send you a poem on insomnia inspired by a moment not far from the hour when you were also awake ;)

Rosemerry

At Four Forty-Six a.m. When I Can’t Sleep

The birds are there.

Their predawn songs

float through

the open window,

and I almost hate

in that moment

that beautiful sound

that enters the dream

I am not having

to perch on the branch

of awareness.

I want to ignore

their song.

Want to not know it.

Want to sleep through it.

But I think of my friend

in the Middle East

who wrote me last week.

I doubt there are

any birds left in Gaza,

she said.

Then there is no more sleeping.

Then I lie there and think

how lucky it is

to hear the birds,

though I can no longer tell

if their song is lament

or praise.

--Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer

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Erin's avatar

From someone who intrinsically believes what I do is never good enough, this message is so absolutely bang on! Thank you for connecting the dots for me:)

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Joseph Rivers's avatar

I love this. When things aren’t clicking into place or you’re wading through sludge, create something true. I’ve definitely felt in this space recently so this is great encouragement 😃

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Bernadette Johnson's avatar

Greetings dear one! #TRUTH!!! So appreciate the generosity of sharing your experience as it unfolds...thank you!

I have to 'dove-tail' off of Brieanna's statement. I, too, am a ;recovering perfectionist'! In my practice, with leadership teams. when talking about self-awareness...ya gotta know and embrace all of you...not perfection...getting better all the time! I've had the honor of having so many caring leaders/mentors in my life...one recognized my inner battle with perfectionism and shared with me: You know, Bernadette, your OK is everyone elses' fantastic." That was 30 years ago...I still hear her voice when I hit a 'speed bump'...LOL!!! Because of this, I'm able to remind leaders that we are imperfect beings leading imperfect beings...how do we create a 'space for grace'...for ourselves and those we are called to lead. In deepest appreciation, Jonathan, for being mentor on this magical journey as well!

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Jonathan Fields's avatar

Love this, Bernadette! It's one of those lessons that takes a life to integrate, even while we're sharing it with others.

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Martina Bourke's avatar

The relief. Being true. This is now my touchstone. More clarity - Thank you.

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Jonathan Fields's avatar

Feels like an exhale. :-)

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Stephanie Siewert's avatar

I love this shift in focus. I am going to bring the question “what is true in this moment?” with me on my daily walk (which I also refer to as my wander & wonder time.) Thank you.

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Martina Bourke's avatar

I like your "wander & wonder". That's how I walk on holidays and I really enjoy walking on holidays.

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Jonathan Fields's avatar

Love that as a seed for your daily walk, Stephanie.

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Mish McDonald-Ross's avatar

Dude. Ya just keep on doin’ IT. Spewing all the sense. Making practicality into poems. The revelatory ah-ha I needed in this moment. Writing what’s true… yup, yup. That’ll unlock some wheel spins. ✔️🙌🏻

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Jonathan Fields's avatar

Ha, on occasion, the sense comes as a part of the writing. ;-)

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Georgia Patrick's avatar

Thank you for the wake up call series. It aligns with my mantra which every client gets a taste of somewhere in our relationship when I talk about "The Art of the Painfully Obvious" These truths are in plain sight and staring back at them without blinking takes mindfulness and intention. Your comment about "get closer to the bone" tickled me because I grew up in a Texas culture that said "Beauty is skin deep, but ugly goes clean to the bone." Wake up call, indeed, my friend.

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Jonathan Fields's avatar

Totally agree, I feel like the journey is more about peeling away what obscures what we've always known. And, your "to the bone" reference made me giggle too.

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Brieanna Wilkoff's avatar

I love this. As a recovering perfectionist and people pleaser, I've been actively working to unlearn my conditioning of being a "good girl," of producing and being accomplished, of feeling like hard feelings mean I've done something wrong. In this next phase of my life, I'm trying to embrace acceptance, authenticity, and peace, and finding what is real and true is central to that.

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Jonathan Fields's avatar

Conditioning is so powerful, love that you're exploring a more true way to be.

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Brieanna Wilkoff's avatar

Thanks, Jonathan! I'm loving your podcast too, by the way. As I go on this authenticity journey, I love surrounding myself (via Substack and podcasts and books) with others who are on similar journeys.

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Ann Bennington's avatar

I'm right there with you on all of that, Brieanna! I think the difference for me is that "good" is all tied up with external expectations, but true is so much more internal.

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Brieanna Wilkoff's avatar

I totally agree. I often think things like, "Who defines what's good?" whereas no one can argue with what is true for me.

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junia's avatar

So true. And also good. So many gems in there: when you "weave a thread of collective experience", you not only make me (and others) feel less lonely, but more alive. When you "witness, inhabit and incant what is real" you spark the witnesses in me (and others). Very liberating. When you declare you are a "human trying to be", you meet me (and everyone) where we are in the dance of doing and being. Thank you Jonathan. Always.

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Jonathan Fields's avatar

Junia, so glad these ideas felt liberating. I'm feeling a bit of the same as I settle into the exploration of good and true, and not necessary as opposites, but as options.

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Laura Ziebarth's avatar

Thank you ! I appreciate your podcast and read everything I can find that Rosemerry writes. You both provide a little respite from the crazy.

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Jonathan Fields's avatar

Thanks, Laura. I'm new to Rosemerry's work and now an instant fan. Can't wide to dive into more of her writing, and as well as her daily poems.

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Bev Carrasco's avatar

Aww, so beautiful and freeing! Thank you for sharing!

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Jonathan Fields's avatar

So glad, and thanks for the kind words, Bev.

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Christine Leonard's avatar

Heartfelt and true. Thanks for all you do.

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Jonathan Fields's avatar

Thanks, Christine.

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Victoria Fann's avatar

Our alignment with our true Self is the highest form of prayer as it emanates love in all directions because our heart is open.

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Jonathan Fields's avatar

Beautifully said, Victoria. Allowing that true Self to reveal itself, then opening to what it reveals is quite the adventure.

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Victoria Fann's avatar

Yes, it is!

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David W. Zoll's avatar

This is a keeper. Our self criticism, necessary as it is, can also be a barrier. I always tell myself that perfection is the enemy of Good. But Truth must come first.

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Jonathan Fields's avatar

Thanks, David. Agree with you, there is often useful insight/information in self-criticism, but also so much other "stuff" that rides along with it that can stop us from doing the very things that make us come alive.

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