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Emily Quinton's avatar

An interesting framework. As a neurodivergent individual I am always jumping in with my version of a similar experience and often then feel I shared too quickly. I am going to start giving this a try. Thank you! 🙏

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Bobbi Kahler's avatar

Spot on! Using curiosity to navigate as you suggest, is so important. It’s what makes people feel heard, seen and understood. It’s what we ALL crave. My husband puts it this way: you ask the questions to show you care! Thanks for highlighting this important skill!!

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Maureen Anderson's avatar

Of anything I've ever read from you, Jonathan, this is my favorite! If everyone took it to heart (and I have a reminder bookmarked), what a different world it would be.

Thank you :)

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Angelique Electra's avatar

This is so spot on Jonathan. An important insight to deepen connections. I experience this, now notice it more especially when I’m quashed and when I’m about to do it to someone else. We need this, especially in these times.

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Nadya's avatar

The advice I didn't know I needed, thank you! Also very excited for the 4-part series. Much needed before the start of the second half of the year.

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Gayle Beavil 🇨🇦's avatar

Love the nudge to do the three extending questions. And... can't wait for the summer series. #yay ;)

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Michele's avatar

Love these reminders so much!

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Bev Carrasco's avatar

Thanks for sharing! As I reflected on a recent weekend trip, i noticed I checked several of the above and felt it after the fact. Going to integrate several of the recommendations.

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David Nebinski's avatar

Thank you! This is helpful for me trying to be a better conversationalist and podcaster!

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Ahh...Yes!  Power with Grace's avatar

You are spot on!

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Heidi Risse's avatar

Oh god yes, I've done this too. I suppose we all have at some point. Training ourselves to be better listeners, question-askers, and communicators is a life-long lesson. This was such a great piece and more excellent advice I didn't even know I needed.

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Heike Evans's avatar

Wonderful and extremely necessary reminder for developing good conversations. I often feel at the end of an interaction that I may have "hogged" the floor and not given others more of a space to share...especially people who are not quite as gregarious. Thinking about your answer while the other person is still speaking is often a fault of mine. A terrible excuse...but none the less part of the scenario...I often feel that I have a great thought and I am scared that I will forget it ....I suppose it isn't really the end of the world if I do ! Thanks for the wonderful reminder and advice. Most appreciated.

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MVann's avatar

Fantastic. My brother has master of this. I LOVE talking with him.

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Andrea Toole's avatar

Fantastic advice that I need to be reminded of every so often. This post made me realize that I should practice it. Literally, practice - to improve and make it second nature.

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Chris Conrad's avatar

good stuff

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Lisa Riesner's avatar

thats so beautiful, maybe my podcast could be an amazing add up on your article?

https://lisariesner.substack.com/p/chosen-the-king

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